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Advice:

To the Parents:

• Remember this is a right of passage and the passage is for a 12-13 year old young man or woman. They are dealing with issues like cliques, middle school and boyfriends and girlfriends and live in a world where the impossible is still possible and probable!

• As you know it’s a tough age to see eye to eye, but if you can let your child make as many decisions as possible with your “guidance” or suggestions, the inevitable power struggle won’t rear it’s shiny head as much and you may even get closer when planning together.

• Not all 12/13 yr. olds understand the concept of a budget, but this is a perfect time to clue them in. For example give them a budget and control of one aspect such as party favors or table decoration (for the kids table) and have them present their findings to you. This will help them feel more a part of their big day and will let you go ahead and get the other major event decisions moving forward.

• Involve them as much as possible and keep them in the game. Make sure the theme is agreed upon by everyone in the beginning and everything we go a lot smoother.

To the Bar/Bat Mitzvah Young Man and Woman:

• They’re your parents and they love you! Try to remember that and it’s your big day. You are now showing the world that you are growing up and can handle life’s challenges, responsibilities and compromises.

• Did someone say, it’s a party?! If there is something you’re really passionate about, calmly let your parents know what it is and why it’s important. If it’s in the budget, they will respect that and try to make it happen.

• Write a kick ass speech and don’t forget to thank your parents.

Other helpful information on Bar Mitzvah planning can be found in this article